Life's Amazing Secrets: How to Find Balance and Purpose in Your Life (বাংলা রিভিউ)

 

Life's Amazing Secrets: How to Find Balance and Purpose in Your Life

অর্থাৎ ,  জীবনের বিস্ময়কর রহস্য: জীবনের উদ্দেশ্য এবং ভারসাম্য কিভাবে খুঁজে পাওয়া যাবে তা নিয়েই এই বইয়ের আয়োজন।

নিশ্চয়ই এই বইয়ের নাম শুনেই আমরা বুঝে গেছি যে কি নিয়ে এই বইটি লেখা,তাই না?

প্রথমে আমি লেখকের কথা বলতে চাই। গৌড় গোপাল দাস, যিনি জন্মগ্রহণ করেন ভারতের মহারাষ্ট্রে। তিনি ইলেকট্রিক্যাল ইঞ্জিনিয়ারিং এ পড়াশোনা করেন। হিউলেট প্যাকার্ডের সাথে সংক্ষিপ্ত বক্তব্য রাখার পরে, তিনি তার জীবনকে লাইফকোচ হিসাবে উন্নীত করার সিদ্ধান্ত নিয়েছেন। ফলস্বরূপ 1996 সালে তিনি ইসকনে যোগ দিয়েছিলেন। আধ্যাত্মিকতা এবং অনুপ্রেরণার ক্ষেত্রে অসামান্য অবদানের জন্য তাকে 2016 রোটারি ইন্টারন্যাশনালের সুপার অ্যাচিভার অ্যাওয়ার্ড প্রদান করা হয়েছিল।এছাড়াও তিনি অনেক পুরুষ্কার অর্জন করেছেন।

সহজে বলতে গেলে তিনি একজন সন্ন্যাসী এবং লাইফ কোচ,যিনি আধ্যাত্নিক বিষয়ে ইউটিউবে প্রচুর ভিডিও পাবলিশ করেন যা কিনি প্রতিনিয়ত মিলিয়ন মিলিয়ন ভিউ হচ্ছে।

তার লেখা এই বইটি ২০১৮ সালের সেপ্টেম্বর মাসে প্রকাশিত হয়। যেখানে তিনি তার ভিডিও কিংবা স্পীসের মতোই চারটি নীতি নিয়ে আলোচনা করেছেন যা সুখী জীবনের ভিত্তি তৈরি করে। এগুলো হলো: ব্যক্তিগত জীবন, সম্পর্ক, কর্মজীবন এবং সামাজিক অবদান। এই চারটি বিষয়কে কিভাবে আমরা আমাদের জীবনে ব্যালেন্স করে মূল্যবোধ এবং সুখ খুঁজে পেতে পারি মূলত তা নিয়ে বিস্তারিত আলোচনা করা হয়েছে।

আমাদের লাইফ হলো একটা জার্ণি, সেই যাত্রা কিংবা ভ্রমণের পথ যতই খারাপ হউক না কেনো অবশ্যই সেই পথ আমাদের পাড়ি দিতে হবে এবং তা খুব বিচক্ষণতার সহিত। রিলেশনশীপ নিয়ে লেখক একটি কথা বলেছেন যে, Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one that finds the gold. অর্থাৎ, কোন মানুষ একজন মানুষের মধ্যে ময়লা খুঁজে পেতে পারে, আপনি সেই মানুষটি হউন যে কিনা সেখানে স্বর্ণ কিংবা মূল্যবান কিছু খুঁজে বের করবেন। তিনি আরো বলেছেন, কোন মানুষের

"If you fall in LOVE too fast"

Don't fall in love too fast because the truth is when you fall in love too fast it does not love.

 Let me explain, nothing good in our lives ever comes from falling they say love is blind because the only time we fall is when we're blinded .when you fall in love too fast, you think you know their dreams but you just know their plans. You think you know their heart, but you just know their mind.

You think you know their past, but you just know parts.

Let the right person show you that they're the right person.

Don't simply give away your trust, let any person earn it. 

I know what it's like, it feels amazing to fall for someone quickly that adrenaline rush. But why would you want to fall for someone you don't know is going to be there to catch you? We don't just find a huge tree with beautiful fruits and flowers overnight. It takes time. No matter how much you water it, it takes time. No matter how much sunlight, you give it .it takes time. No tree overnight has the most beautiful flowers and fruits and so, neither can a relationship. It takes time .because remember, you can't eat the food the same day you plant the seed .and on the flip side, don't make someone fall in love with you if you to love them. Because guess what they won't end up questioning you- they'll end up questioning love. And I'm trying to say this for your own benefit. I want you to have incredible, meaningful, purposeful relationships. But I want them to be real, I favor them to be genuine. Because being in love isn't a mood, it is a dedication even after your temper changes and you do not figure that one month.

Personality Development

Ten things you must NEED to Develop Your Personality( Its all about my learning revision)➝

1. Proper HandShaking with the people in a program.

2. Proper EYE Contact with the people with whom you talk in Business purpose or anything else.

3. Should not chewing the chewing gum, never eat in your business, office or class program.

4. Talk properly not in upper Loud volume or Down volume that will help your opponent side to listen to your voice. Also, try to speak fluently.

5. Don't criticize your opposite side person, give them respect.

6. Wear a formal dress. It must be according to your work-related that where you work.

7. Be neat and clean. It needs no money to be neat and clean. It helps you to look good.

8. Talk properly in Your language especially in Bengali. You can follow the News channel.

9. Brush your teeth properly.

10. Be respectful to the people of all class. Give respect to all of the people.

If you're about to BREAK UP

Trust is an expensive gift which we never expect from cheap people. Love dies because of fear. It's normal to be scared of losing your partner. But in the process of being scared of losing your partner, you end up doing irrational things trying to keep them close.  We get so fixated so focused on this person who creates all those feelings all of those emotions of pain at the moment our love died but we miss the lessons. The lesson that is a fear, The lesson that is there are a misscommunication.
If you love died, find your answer in these. It will give you answer closely that the person may not be able to provide. More importantly, It will give you the courage to go forward with more strength.

Choose your PAIN ! as Right

Have any of you tried doing exercise? like, a gym workout or jogging and have realized that physical activity is painful?

Have any of you as a school or college student?

Work hard to get a good Grade and have realized that studying hard is painful?

Have any of you wanted promotional at work put in a lot of energy and realized that laborious effort is painful?

Have any of you want to save a relationship tried to keep your ego aside to adjust and realized the bending down is extremely painful?

Pain is such an integral part of life that try as hard as we may, we just cannot escape.

But we have a choice to accept the right side of pain that initially hurt but eventually heals.

That initially is uncomfortable but eventually unleashes our true potential, that initially we want to avoid but eventually very happily accept.

Or the wrong kind of pain, where the beginning is so much pleasure but in the end, life is just a pity.

In the beginning, things are so much comfortable but at the end endlessly complex.

The pain of exercise or the pain of diseases, which one will you choose?

The pain of studying hard or the pain of being unworthy- which one will you choose?

The pain of effort at work or the pain of stagnation - which one will you choose?

The pain of adjusting with a loved one or the pain of a broken heart- which will you choose?

The right kind of pain or the wrong kind of pain- you will have to choose one.

Choose the right one and live a better happy life.

Before you achieve your DREAM

If you want to be someone who travels across the world and performs you need travel one city first and perform there.
If you want to be someone who's in movies, Go and film a short movie.
Go and build the mini version of that dream, because that mini dream is going to teach you so much. 
If you do like these, you will be able to understand - What the dream looks like and not what the dream is. 
So advise you, firstly build and success your mini dream that will be able to create a number of stairs which help you to build your BIG DREAM.
Listen, It does not depend upon in what stage have you right now or what's your age.

Find the Question of - WHY

We will be able to focus anything when we realize it that " Why I need to do it, What it will pay me or what's the benefit of this work"
Like I can think- I'm here because it puts food on the table, I'm here because it pays my bills and takes care of my family, I'm here because I studied and work hard for this. 

Only then you able to increase your attraction to even the things you're totally the unfocused on, now if you found yourself distracted on focus for too long that definitely can mean you need to find more meaningful fulfilling work.✌
But no matter what you do no matter how much you chase your passion and live your purpose it will still be things you have to do on a daily basis that you don't find interesting you will feel unfocused and distracted for that ask yourself this question ----- Why am I here? Why am I doing this?
and you find your mind become attracted and become focused.🌝

~Desire is FIRST~

The starting point of all achievements is Desire.
You must have a desire to do the work, you must need an aim to get success, you need to focus to your destination from the starting.
Only your focus, your desire can help to reach the destination that you want. 
Mind that→ Pleasure of the SUNRISE and Pleasure of the SUNSET never same.
If you wanna get the pleasure of sunrise please always, always focus on your desire every time.

Respect Needy people

Formal education helps us to get a better job, helps to lead a better life But besides formal education it is very good needed that we must know about the minimum courtesy, manner, humanity and must have the quality that In society all of the people are same, they are also live in society, we should respect them equally.
So, we must need having these qualities to proof us a RIGHT HUMAN.

Firstly Read one book then Buy another one

A library is a much better place for thinking, in where you get pin drop silence. It's the storehouse of different books, you can dive into the ocean of books.
But you should never forget that You are in the ocean of books that not mean you are a wise person; if you don't read, study them. Having many books not means you have vast knowledge. 
So, please buy one book and read it properly before buying another one.

Letting down your parents?

We waste so many years studying something we don't care about because we care so much about those who care for us. But the challenge is our focus is fueled more by guilt than gratitude.

Our motivation is not a powerful future but actually, fear. Nothing, I mean nothing that is completed out of the intention of fear can lead to fulfillment. Our parents have sacrificed so much to get to where they are but why we are sacrificing Where we can go?

They've worked so hard to move us forward.

Why are we choosing to step backward?

And remember, we can't make anyone proud if we lose pride in what we're doing.

There's no chance we can make happy anyone happy if we're unhappy ourselves.

We think giving up on their dream will let them down, not realizing what giving up on our dreams does to us.

our parents would always want what's good for us but if we think we know what's better for us.

Don't let years go by and carry that inside yourself. We can't spend the rest of our life being tested on what we don't love.

And remember, if we don't choose to pursue our passion, we'll probably live in regret.

Have a Longing with anyone? That's for YOU!

If something holding you back, Readout this story ~

A farmer had three donkeys and was taking them for sale to the market.

On the way, he saw a river and desired to take a dip. There was an issue though. He only had two ropes and thus would be able to tie only two of his two donkeys to a tree.

He was thinking that how to tie the third one? and he wondered.

Around there he saw a wise man and approached him for a rope to tie his rest third number donkey.

The man hadn't a rope but he gave a brilliant suggestion. He told the farmer that, "Tie the two donkeys up to a tree with the ropes that you have and make sure that the third donkey is watching. Then, simply pretend to tie the third one".

The farmer followed the farmer advice and went for a dip in the river. When he came back he saw the donkeys that they still stood at the same spot where he had left them. He thanked the wise man, untied the donkeys and patted the third one.so it starts moving as well. After going a little distance, he turned around and was surprised to see the third donkey still standing at the very same spot. He tried cajoling and talking to the donkey. It didn't help. He tried to push the donkey from behind but it didn't want to move from the spot.

The helpless farmer came to the wise man and said him everything. Then the wise man again suggests him that, do the same work which you have done when you tie him. The farmer surprised! He said, I never tied him up. The man replied, you know it that but not the donkey. it still thinks it is tied up.

Then the farmer went through the imaginary motions of untying the donkey and guess what

sure enough the donkey moved immediately and walked over to join it's two friends.

What's holding us from back from moving ahead and reaching our dreams?

Is it a lack of RESOURCES, Is it a lack of OPPORTUNITIES, Is it a lack of SUPPORT or Are we tied up by an imaginary rope?

DOUBT, FEAR, HESITATION?

Yes, we certainly need to work on the external parameters needed for our success. What is even more important is that we untie our mental blocks and Expedite our journey towards our GOAL.

Take the Rejection as a CHANCE!

You should extremely be grateful that something doesn't work out the way we once wanted them to.

 When we get rejected or we fail or things don't go the way we feel we're further away from our goal. But sometimes it's in those moments that we have the greatest opportunity to reflect to refuel and to refocus. It's in those moments that feel like the death of our dreams that our truest potential is actually taking birth. If a door doesn't open It's not your door. Often we are trying to climb laters that are not ours to climb.
Is your dream really your dream?
Are you chasing what you truly want?

That pain we find our greatest power. Success is not built on success. It's built on failure, It's built on frustration. It builds on the fear that you have to overcome.

Time , Wealth & Health in our LIFE

There are three things that control our lives - TIME, WEALTH & HEALTH. 😃
When we are young, we have time to play, time to explore, time to waste, time to be curious.
When we are young - we generally have health, we have energy, we have strength but most of us don't wealth. We don't have all the money in the world, we can't buy everything we want, we don't get everything we want; we still have our health. It may not be the same but it still there. 
But we have now more wealth more money, we have a home, we have devices, we have access to the thing and so on. But we don't have always time, money can buy a house but not a home, money can buy a bed but not sleep, money can buy a book but not knowledge, money can earn a title but not respect, money can buy a clock but not time.
Those of us who think we have no time for our health will sooner or later have to find time for our illness.
When we are young we have time and health but no money, when we are older we have money and wealth but no time and finally, in old age, we have money and time but no health to use that wealth. 
SO, What do we DO?☺️
We have these all, just not having these all-time perfectly. 🌚
There are two key principles: We become successful by what we get but we become happy by what we give. And what we give includes our time, wealth, energy. 
People will forget what you did or what you gave them, you will remain in their heart by "How you made them feel "😃

So, please work for society, for the country, to make you remarked to make you remembered in people's heart after fulfilling your minimum desires thing. 
||Life is ONE make it MEMORABLE|| 🙂